Let It Go!

Something very exciting happened in our family last week.  Ruby lost her first tooth!  Here she is, with the gorgeous little gap that just makes her look so cute.  

This has been much anticipated and longed for.  Her friends started losing theirs a while ago and she has been desperate to be grown up like them and the day that she wobbled her tooth and it moved a tiny bit, you’d have thought it was Christmas Day!  It took a long time.  Weeks and weeks of pushing it and touching it and asking when it was going to happen.  Weeks of frustration that it was all going too slowly and watching more friends lose theirs but it just wasn’t happening.  

Then the day arrived.  

It was really quite wobbly by this stage and she was so desperate for it to happen that I suggested she ate an apple.  Well, that did it!  It went from wobbly to pretty much hanging and she was playing with it when reality struck.  

She went from excitement and desperation to lose it to sheer panic with one wobble.  

“It’s my first one, Mummy.  I don’t know what to do.  I don’t want it to come out. Is it going to hurt?  I don’t want to lose it.  Make it stay Mummy.  I don’t know how to do this.”  Tears poured down her face as she faced the reality of change and the possibility of the pain involved as it came out.  She was beside herself, almost inconsolable.  

Quietly and gently, I pulled her to me and whispered words of comfort in her ear…..

“It will all be okay.  It might hurt when it comes out.  That is a possibility but it won’t last very long and then once it’s gone, the new one can come and you won’t be so bothered about the pain.  It will be okay.  You will be okay.  Sometimes we have to lose something so that we can make room for something different, something better.  That’s what’s happening here.”

And then it hit me.  Hard.  

Here I am, talking to my baby.  Comforting her and feeling her pain as she panics about the pain of letting go, the worry of things changing and I realise that God is speaking to me.

Covid-19 has forced us to stop.  We have had to let go of so much as we wait for a resolution.  I know that I’m not the only one who has found this period so painful, so difficult, so frightening.  It feels as though we have been stopped in our tracks and we are powerless.  We have no control over what has happened, what is happening, with Covid and we have no idea when it will change, what will be different, what will be lost for good and what the new is going to look like.  

And right in the middle of it, God is here.  Quietly and gently he pulls us close and whispers in our ear……  

“It will all be okay.  It might hurt now but it won’t last very long and, once it’s over the new can come and you won’t be so bothered about the pain.  It will be okay.  You will be okay.  Sometimes we have to lose something so that we can make room for something different, something better.  That’s what’s happening here.”

CS Lewis said,  “There are far better things ahead than any we leave behind.”  

The bible has lots to say about change and about letting things go.  It talks about us being new creations with the old gone and the new come.  It says “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.  See, I am doing a new thing.”   

It doesn’t pretend that it will be easy or painless.  

John 12:24-25 says, “Listen carefully: Unless a grain of wheat is buried in the ground, dead to the world, it is never any more than a grain of wheat. But if it is buried, it sprouts and reproduces itself many times over. In the same way, anyone who holds on to life just as it is destroys that life. But if you let it go, reckless in your love, you’ll have it forever, real and eternal.”

I love that last sentence.  If you let it go, reckless in your love, you’ll have it forever, real and eternal.  Wow.  And all possible because Jesus came as a baby, died on the cross and was raised to life.  Unimaginable pain, both physical and emotional, leading to wonderful, everlasting life.  His pain, his willingness to let go of his life for us.

So, in this time of confusion, of pain, of waiting and of losing what is so familiar to us, I pray that you, too, can feel that gentle voice of God whispering in your ear, “It will all be okay.  It might hurt now but it won’t last very long and, once it’s over the new can come and you won’t be so bothered about the pain.  It will be okay.  You will be okay.  Sometimes we have to lose something so that we can make room for something different, something better. “

I pray too that you will know for sure that in the middle of all this change, God never does.

Yesterday, today, forever,

Jesus is the same.

We may change but Jesus never,

Glory to his name!